Back in January, Sarah and I shared our goals for 2019. We’ve now completed the first quarter (and first quintile, in Sarah’s system! She does January to spring break, spring break to summer, summer, start-of-school, and holidays.)
So how did we do in Q1? In today’s episode of the Best of Both World podcast, we discuss that topic.
The answer is mostly good. Sarah restarted a research collaboration at work and upgraded her blog. She did not do her “mommy days” with her two older children, but the days she’d arranged for that got eaten up by her move. She’s rescheduling this goal for Q3. She has tried some group fitness classes (and found one she liked!). She also made all her doctor appointments that had not happened during the Year of Pumping.
I launched Juliet’s School of Possibilities. I also launched Before Breakfast, the new podcast, which was still under wraps at the time I shared my goals in January, but was quietly on the list. My family went to Disney World and the kids had a good enough time that they are looking to go back. You can read Jasper’s ride reviews here! I successfully went outside almost every day for 20 minutes. (I’ve posted this before but will again — I think this is a great resolution, and I’m so glad I found it thanks to the HumansOutside.com project.)
Looking ahead to Q2, I suspect I will not be as successful. I thought I’d revise the NaNoWriMo novel I wrote, but I’m not sure I feel like doing that. I wanted to get my backyard redone, but as I have not even called anyone for estimates, I suspect there’s no way the timing would work to be done with everything by June 30. And I think I’m fine with that. There’s nothing wrong with the yard and I’m not sure I feel like biting off another huge home renovation project. On the other hand, my Q2 goal to get together with friends at least every other week appears to be well on its way to happening.
If you make quarterly goals, how did you do on Q1? (As for why to make quarterly goals? More fresh starts!)
In the question section, a listener asks how to have a good attitude about missing lots of work days unpredictably due to winter weather and illnesses. I’m not sure there’s a good answer to this. We discussed the practical steps we’ve taken to lessen the work impact. In my case, a major reason we switched to nanny care from daycare was that I wound up covering so many unexpected days that first winter of parenthood. And yes, it was mostly me — causing marital conflict that made it even harder to have a good attitude. People going into parenthood might explicitly set an agreement of each parent having alternating weeks “on call,” and seeing everyone’s reaction to this idea might be a good way to unearth unstated assumptions. (In my husband’s defense, he realized quickly that the daycare option was unsustainable, and in the childcare situation we have now, I have a lot more predictability. If I had known to set this up and what to hire for when my eldest was an infant, our transition to parenthood would have been very different.)
Winter weather can be somewhat planned for. When we had snow predicted and I knew my husband would be traveling, I’d often take the weekends as work days while he covered. It doesn’t solve the problem of meetings (which are hard to even take as calls if you’ve got very little kids). But it can take the focused, individual work out of the equation so any existing nap time can be focused on interactive work.
We also just wanted to send a message of support to our listener. If you’re a planner — and many of us are! — having things not go as planned is never going to be fun. You can take steps to mitigate any major issues, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to feel happy about it. And that’s OK. Not all of life is rainbows and unicorns!