The Best of Both Worlds podcast has listeners of all ages and family types. But the majority are women in what we sometimes call “the busy years” — building a career, raising a young family.
For people in the busy years with spouses/partners, finding time for that particular person can feel really tough. There’s some time diary evidence to bear this out. While women are spending more time working for pay now than they did in the 1960s, and men and women are both spending more time interacting with their children, time couples spend together each week has fallen by several hours.
The good news is that you don’t need a ton of hours to stay connected. In this episode we discuss strategies for putting couple time on the schedule. We do hope to grow old with our husbands and the busy years do not last forever (though with five kids they will last a long time…whoa…)
In the question section, we read a letter from a listener whose oldest friends don’t seem to share her value of equal parenting. While agreeing with our listener that we wish more couples modeled these values, we also note that her own children will be more influenced by her and her husband’s example than by others. We can’t necessarily change other people. We have to simply live the best lives we can and talk with children about why we value what we do.
Please give the episode a listen! And if you’ve had a cool date night lately (or have another tradition, like lunch together with your partner every Wednesday), please let us know!