In the social media era, we don’t just compare ourselves to our neighbors (though in certain neighborhoods, that can be an ordeal on its own!) We can compare ourselves to anyone. It’s human nature to compare up, rather than down, even though down might make more sense (for anyone reading this post, the proportion of the world’s population with fewer resources is…huge).
It’s also human nature to fixate on certain things that bother us more than others. In this episode, Sarah and I talk about the particular posts that inspire the “compare and despair” impulse (as I wrote last week, the put-together matching-outfit families featuring mom with make-up and blown-out hair can do it for me, as do the fun and relaxing vacations people seem to take). We can know much of this is fake (hello sponsored post!) and still get irritated.
There are lots of tactics to combat this. One is to prune the social media feed. Or spend less time there. It’s also helpful to examine the jealousy and see what can constructively be changed. While I’m probably not going to hire a stylist and photographer to follow me around, I can book some toddler-focused childcare so I can relax for a few hours on weekends.
In the Q&A we give a listener ideas for how to manage unexpected extra hours at work. Please give the episode a listen and we appreciate a rating/review!