Ever wonder why kids seem to have more friends than adults? Part of it is consistency. When you go to school every week day, you see the same kids over and over again, and through the sheer quantity of interactions, anything that seems relatively positive can become a friendship.
With adults, the logical equivalent is work. And sure enough, work is a great place to make friends — despite the reputation. Plenty of research has found that people who have a “best friend” at work feel far more engaged. This makes sense. If you genuinely enjoy spending time with a person, you enjoy spending time with them even when you’re at work. And that makes work itself seem better.
Today’s podcast guest, Shasta Nelson, is the author of the new book The Business of Friendship, which is all about how and why you should make friends at work. Yep, that includes supervisors too (she points out that leaders can get lonely!) In this episode of Best of Both Worlds, she talks about the friendship pillars of consistency, vulnerability, and positivity, and how these can work in a work context.
And then she addresses the current big issue: if you’re working from home, how can you create that same consistency for making friends? It’s possible, if more difficult. You have to be intentional, which is hard to do in a busy life. But probably worth it.
I loved Shasta’s practical advice, so be sure to give this episode a listen!