So after my pregnancy announcement last week, Sarah and I decided to do a full-on baby episode. I talk about expecting #5, and how I revealed the news to the kids. We talk about the idea of a “family baby.” When you are expecting a first child, or even a second or third if the older siblings are quite young, much of the anticipation is concentrated in the adults. But as your kids get older (and their numbers stack up!) the arrival of a new sibling is a community event. My kids have a relationship with their little brother already, and he is being welcomed into their tribe, which has its own identity — completely separate from me.
We talk about how I’m doing: not bad, all things considered with my “advanced maternal age.” I’m still running. I did four miles outside on Monday morning, and it felt awesome. Not all runs feel awesome, but on the margin they’re still good enough that I keep going. For now. Anyone following the running streak should know that I do plan to pause it for a few weeks after delivery.
Because my children have a reasonable age gap (my eldest will be almost 13 when this little guy is born!) I’ve seen quite an evolution in maternity and baby products, and how they’re advertised. (No Instagram for #1!) We asked listeners for their favorites and their advice, and part of the episode is devoted to that. I’m quite curious about the wearable, portable in-bra pumps (Willow, Elvie) and plan to get one of them. As for maternity wear, I’ve been mostly doing Seraphine and JoJo Maman Bebe. I got an awesome pair of maternity jeans from JMB, though when I ordered a second pair I somehow got the wrong size, so the system isn’t perfect. For speeches, I’m wearing a Seraphine blue tweed-ish shift dress with a blue blazer. I’m also wearing a stretchy (non-maternity) MM Lafleur blue shift dress with a houndstooth blue-and-white blazer. And I have a snazzy pair of Seraphine dress black pants that I will wear with my tunic sweaters (non-maternity, but roomy enough to work). So I feel pretty set.
Finally, we take a question from a listener who is expecting baby #3. She runs her own business, which she was not doing when she had her first two children. So she wants to know: how do you take a maternity leave when you’re self-employed? My answer is that it’s possible, but it won’t look like a corporate type leave. I pretty much never go down to zero — but you can take time to scale back up if you’d like, and if your business involves some flexibility, you might be able to work full time while still breastfeeding during breaks. I’m personally limiting travel during Q1 of 2020 and then scaling it back up in late spring.
We apologize for the late posting of this episode — there was a snafu with the default publishing time. I know some listeners look forward to it on their Tuesday morning commutes. But it’s up now, so hopefully you can listen on the way home!