Today’s episode of Best of Both Worlds combines a couple of good topics.
First, we did a post-mortem on my co-host Sarah’s recent family vacation. Key take-away: vacations with toddlers are hard. Being up from 1:30-5 a.m. with an unhappy kid is miserable even if you’re at the Ritz. It might be even more miserable at the Ritz than a mid-range hotel because the contrast between the promised serenity and the nature of reality can just heighten your despair. Sarah’s husband wound up taking the toddler out for a beach walk at 3:30 a.m. Good times.
The upside of staying in a rented house (either a villa at a hotel, or a VRBO or Air Bnb type option) is that you’re more relaxed about kid noise at 1:30 a.m., and you can also put a younger kid to bed and then not have to sit quietly in the dark. Lesson learned for next time!
We devote the bulk of the episode to talking about ways to make time for health: exercise, sleep, healthy eating, and mental health. We talk about my Hungry Harvest produce boxes — a fun and environmentally friendly way to make sure there’s more produce in the house than there otherwise would be. We talk about the best times to exercise, and the best mindset about exercise: It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Sarah mentioned that pre-kids she used to think if she couldn’t run at least 5 miles, what was the point? But now she’s come to see that doing at least a little something, frequently, adds up. I think the all-or-nothing thinking is common; people decide that it no longer works with the family schedule to go to the gym for an hour every night after work, and therefore working parents can’t exercise. But this doesn’t logically follow.
We end with a question from a listener who has been working just a bit (8-12 hours/week) for the last few years. Her kids are now in school and she’s interested in ramping up, but she’s trying to figure out how to do that (since her current employer doesn’t have a ready possibility for expanding her position). We note that the ramp-up doesn’t have to happen immediately. She can give herself 6-12 months to really think through what she’d like to do, and to talk with lots of people, and learn about the employers in her area. Fortunately, because she’s working 8-12 hours/week and her kids are in school, she has the time and space to do this. Lots of coffees and lunches and deep thinking over a year is bound to produce something — and no doubt something wonderful.
Please give the episode a listen! I listened to the episode this morning driving to/from an appointment and I thought it made the experience more enjoyable…