Just a quick post: I am working on a piece for Verily on how some parents have shown they are “still in the game” after having kids. How do you show you are just (if not more!) productive after having kids? This is a particular issue for women; the motherhood wage penalty is partly about women being seen as less promotable once they have caregiving responsibilities (She won’t stay late! She has other things on her mind! That sort of thing.)
Anyway, if you’d be willing to share stories of how you’ve countered this prejudice in the workplace after becoming a parent, I’d love stories.* You can email me at lvanderkam at yahoo dot com . While I would prefer to use names, I would not need to name previous employers. And if it’s a particularly good, universal tip, I could share it anonymously too.
I work for myself, but I am still careful about a few things. I almost never cancel things, as I know the impression of flightiness is out there. I make sure I have childcare during conference calls or (especially!) video calls. I’ve been on a few calls with dads who work from home and as a general rule they’ve been less concerned about kid noise in the background. I suspect they are less worried about being judged.
* I want to make the point here that I do not believe it should be the job of any individual to counter irrational prejudice. But one can acknowledge that bias against parents — particularly mothers — is wrong while still offering advice on what one personally can do to cope with it.
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