Category: Marriage

Best of Both Worlds: Toward a 50-50 split, plus emotional labor

Today's episode of Best of Both Worlds covers the idea of moving toward a 50-50 split on the home front. A lot of housework can be outsourced, but someone still needs to manage it, and do the tasks that are not easily outsourced. Parents want to be deeply involved in their children's lives; they just also want their partners to be equally involved, since kids tak… read more »

Lobster, oysters, and 13 years

My husband and I got married on Sept. 4, 2004. Since the 13th anniversary isn't exactly a milestone one, we didn't plan anything huge, but we did manage to convince G (nanny) to stay overnight with our kids on Sunday night. We took off in the afternoon for Cape May, NJ, for a 24-hour adults-only trip. Not all went perfectly. For instance, I thought I had booked a ho… read more »

What to pick up when you drop the ball

Even as women make great strides in the workplace, many feel like they shoulder an unequal percentage of the work at home. And so, discussions on balancing work and life often turn to a lament on "how can I get my husband to do more?" Tiffany Dufu's new book, Drop the Ball, proposes another suggestion: you could try doing less. Lower your standards. Don't gate… read more »

Is this a happy money story?

There are many great reasons to choose to stay home with your kids. Achieving better personal finances, however, is generally not one of them. Economist Sylvia Ann Hewlett has calculated that professional women lose 37 percent of their earning power, on average, by taking 3 or more years out of the workforce. To put some numbers on it: a 37 percent haircut on $… read more »

52 hours in Paris

Many years ago when my husband and I were dating, we used to do such things as go to Europe for the weekend. Often it was because he was there during the week, and then I would fly out to meet him. We did Geneva, London, Paris. Good times! Then we had four kids. The four kids cut down a wee bit on the Europe-for-the-weekend sorts of trips. But they have not killed them. T… read more »