Category: Women

An open letter to the essayist who wrote an open letter to the mother who ran a half-marathon weeks after giving birth

Dear Mommyish essayist: It seemed like a good idea at the time. You wanted to write an essay about society’s expectations that women lose their pregnancy weight immediately after giving birth. You wanted to lampoon those tabloid cover stories on “how she got her pre-baby body back!” You wanted to make a point that new motherhood is often hard, and it do… read more »

The life-changing magic of not tidying up

Here are some interesting things to know about Marie Kondo. When this young Japanese “cleaning consultant” comes home from work, “I greet the waist-high potted plant by the window and stroke its leaves,” she says. Having fondled the foliage, “My next task is to empty the contents of my handbag on the rug and put each item away in its place.” Not ev… read more »

Unmet and mismatched expectations, or getting him to take your career seriously

I’ve had several people send me articles about new research on Harvard Business School women, and the various factors that might have held back their careers (here’s one from the New York Times). The upshot: female graduates and male graduates have equal ambitions. This is true even after the graduates start families. But over time, women are less like… read more »

Childcare costs, or why money matters

Get Rich Slowly tackled one of my favorite topics this week: the economics of childcare. It’s not a favorite topic because it is fun. Far from it. Indeed, it’s often depressing. However, it can lead to a useful discussion of how choices need to be considered not just in the moment, but in the long term. (I’m quoted to this effect in the original post). Here… read more »

Real Simple and the laundry

Real Simple magazine has been around for about 15 years, and there are only so many aspects of daily life to be simplified. So the magazine turned its attention to laundry, again, for its August 2014 issue. The advice is perfectly reasonable and helpful: you probably need less detergent! But I’ll admit that I was a bit puzzled by Kristin van Ogtrop’s edito… read more »