Category: Marriage

“And then there were the wife bonuses”

If one party in a relationship earns a paycheck, and the other doesn’t, how should financial decisions be made? When should either party need to consult the other, and when is that not necessary? There are answers in the real world, and then there are answers, according to a recent essay in the New York Times, in the rarefied world of the Upper East Side of Manh… read more »

Faulty work/life narrative 3: It’s all on mom

Like many people, I’ve been shocked by the news of Dave Goldberg’s death late last week. It was an utterly senseless accident, and regardless of who the people in question were, the idea of a happy couple going off on vacation and the wife coming back as a widow with two young kids is just heart wrenching. Most readers of this blog know what we do of Goldberg fr… read more »

Cheers for in-home date night

There comes a time, when you have 4 small children, when it feels like they completely take over your life. This weekend had elements of that. Saturday featured swim lessons in the morning, as it usually does. My husband takes the 3 big kids to the Y, leaving at 9:00 a.m. and returning around 11:30. This is kind of my “me time,” except that I’m caring for a 2-… read more »