I was quoted in Marci Alboher’s Yahoo blog on Friday which asked “Are dads the new working moms?”

While media accounts of changing gender roles often focus on images of stay-at-home “Mr. Moms” (always depicted as bumbling around in aprons), the real shift is more that men now think they need to combine working and caregiving — even when they are their families’ sole or primary breadwinners. Two generations ago, many fathers believed that earning a paycheck was their contribution to the family, full stop. Now, it is not socially acceptable at all for a man to refuse to change diapers.

Of course, there is a lot more to childcare than changing diapers, and moms in 2-income families get particularly bitter about the fact that they’re usually responsible for remembering that babysitters need to be called, that there isn’t milk in the house, etc. But as Marci pointed out, one consulting company pitched her a Father’s Day idea about various male executives who flew home from meetings for soccer games. That’s a long way from believing that earning a paycheck is all you need to do to support a family. Moms don’t believe that, even though the vast majority of women now earn incomes. So why should men?